Life has offered up a ‘settle this situation’ left turn. I will try not to make this blog a Debbie Downer but its reality.
My mother has received an offer for her home. Now we are about to embark on a very stressful moving activity that happens to us all as we enter the last half of our lives. “Downsizing”.
I have not owned a home since my divorce but WOW is all I can say. Activities from trying to get the offer finalized, obtaining the termite certificate process, getting the buyer approved financially, and not to say, packing 30 years of life into a very small 20×20 box; is what I am doing and will be for the next 2 months. Praying that we can get it done in time, oh yeah, and while life keeps moving along in all directions.
I ponder many thoughts.
We come into this life with nothing, literally. We grow up and things become a reality. Why do the “things” become so important? Do we feel that the more things we have, the happier we will be? Eventually we all have to get back to the “having nothing” before we leave this world. Why is it so hard to remove even a small portion of the things we collect?
My mother’s health has changed drastically, but she does what she can. The things we are sorting through, I know she no longer can use/do. However, she wants to keep them, ALL. What is up with that? I decide to pick my battles and not fight her on this. Well now we have a 20×30 storage with just bins with all the things in them; and no furniture yet. What makes us, not release the things we can no longer do, and keep them as if we can?
I am aware that this is not a new activity as others have been here before me. This is the hardest thing I have even had to do. It is only my mother and I know from our small family of four. I never thought I would be here doing this alone with her. No one ever prepares you for these changes. Kids, including myself, think this is something so far in the future it just will never get here. So we don’t plan nor think about it.
Here is the conclusion and the reason for this Blog…teach your children now for the future of your downsizing. Let them know your wishes, start going through your “things” before you no longer are able to. We, as your kids, can’t know the emotional attachment you may have to your things. Help us to understand just that, so we can understand what we can do to make it easier for you. I hate having to be that person that tells her she can’t keep it all anymore. She has memories and has come to love these pieces of her life.