During my spiritual research, I never realized that we could have this type of spiritual condition. I had never heard of the statement Spiritual By-Passing before listening to my spiritual teacher. Many questions came to mind – Am I Spiritual By-Passing? What things may be unresolved in my life? Where are the issues that need to be healed? Could this be the reason I am stuck within my own spiritual journey? Below we will discuss what Spiritual By-Passing is and how you can help to resolve your unresolved parts within yourself.
What is Spiritual By-Passing
John Welwood, an American clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, teacher, and author, known for integrating the psychological and spiritual concepts; stated that, “An individual uses spiritual ideas and practices as a way to AVOID dealing with and facing unresolved emotional content or pain within themselves”.
Spiritual By-Passing has been described as “an escape or rejection of the parts of you that you don’t want to deal with”. In other words, the parts of you that have been hurt by others, pain from loss or deep hurts, or inner demons. When you avoid these painful situations, hurts or losses, they create an inner turmoil which creates inner-fragmentation within you. This is the defense mechanism, which the brain creates, in order to protect itself from what caused the pain in the first place.
We must heal these fragments in order to continue our spiritual evolution and become fully spiritual. These fragments
become what is known as our inner shadow.
Reasons We By-Pass
There are two main reasons that we engage in Spiritual By-Passing.
1. The “I can’t face that”.
Sometimes we feel that the situation that has occurred is one that you just can’t face no matter what. Another part is that we feel we do not have the tools nor the capacity to relive it all over again in order to heal it.
2. Our own personal dialog regarding emotions.
Some emotions are felt to be bad by us and society. Our inner dialog says to us that they are bad and we believe those emotions have the weight to control us. It is known as a false positivity. One must learn to understand that there are good emotions and bad emotions; and that each have their place.
Signs You Are By-Passing
Polarizing into the Light
This is what is called a false positivity. When we cling to the light and love; and all is positive and happy happy. Not dealing with the shadow human is black and white. We contain many colors of life. “We are Everything”. Each time we only look at the positive, and not deal with the negative; we lose a piece of ourselves into the shadow.
Using Our Sensitivity as an Excuse
If you are an Empath or Sensitive; you tend to learn that you can’t handle strong energies. So you might tend to avoid harsh energies, emotional hurts or traumas. When these things arise in your life, you may think that you are too sensitive to deal with them. No matter if you are one of these beautiful people, you can deal with each, one at a time. You must remember though, that sensitivity is not fragile and should not be treated as the same thing.
Diminishing Your Humanness
You might believe that some experiences or emotions are not acceptable. Once you are awake you will feel nothing and never become angry or sad. This is not true at all. We all have emotions, as we are human. Even when you are awakened you will feel what you are to feel; and must never feel that this is a bad thing. Don’t reject your humanness.
You Project Your Triggers
Triggers, they are wonderful aren’t they?! Familiar emotions can be triggered by similar or other situations that arise. When you are triggered, you tend to point your finger at someone else as if it is their issue and not yours. When actually, it is all you baby.
You Wear a Mask
People that where a mask, are people who show themselves one way in public which is not what they really are in private. This is a false positivity. This too delays the healing of your shadow side.
Ways to NOT By-Pass
1. Do your shadow work.
You must work on the pieces of yourself that you have created by avoidance and thus integrate them. You must make friends with your shadow and be willing to see all the parts of you without fearing them.
2. Reset Your Beliefs.
Can’t face it? You are an eternal soul and you are strong!
Emotions are bad! Emotions are an acceptable part of being human and a normal reality in life. Don’t internalize other people’s judgments regarding your emotions. Don’t let them define you.
Empath or Sensitive. Great! You are an eternal soul and have been here thousands of times, if not more. You must come into your own power and face it, you know it, you have felt it before. You have an inner knowing and “I know who I am!”
Embrace Your Humanity. There are no good or bad emotions. It is acceptable to just be yourself. Go through the different emotions that surface in order to accept the human side of yourself.
Work with Triggers. Triggers are your friends. Stop being trigger sensitive. You don’t change the outside world to behave in a certain way in order not to be triggered. Realize triggers are internal wounds that are not healed. Trigger points are where you need to heal and it’s their way of making you notice them.
In the above article, we have only discussed but a few of the items regarding what Spiritual By-Passing is. Please understand that one article can’t completely reveal each and every shadow issue in this reality. However, I am hoping that this article gives you something to think about when something may trigger you and make you think before you fly off the handle and create yet another shadow.
I want you to be able to stop and say to yourself, . “Wait, what was that”? Why did I react that way? What was the reason for my reaction to this situation? Remember to embrace your humanity! You are an eternal soul! You are strong enough to work through your shadows and come out on the other side shining brightly.
Thank you for visiting my site and reading this article. Please see my other articles this week on “Shadow Work”.
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